Selasa, 21 April 2009

BEAWARE OF EXTRA-MARITAL AFFAIRS



Beaware of extra-Marital affair, which are comman as they have been for a long time.
Yes, extra marital affairs are here and have stayed so, for a longtime. The difference then and now is, it was conducted clandestinely then, but now very open and boldly, at times as mark of diffience.
Is this in human nature?. No, but they are driven to take such a position. Who is to be blamed?. Naturally the other spouse, or in certain cases both, due their incompatiblity. Today technology and social gathering helps a lot in indulging in such a activity, but is it worth the amount of energy and time a person spends to indulge and carry on the affair?.


A few generalised reasons for falling into an extra marital affair are:
1). Sex seeking is the most common reason, unsatisfying sex at home.
2).Controlling games conducted by either of the spouses
3).Mindless felling 'of being' in a group, which is not averse to such activity.
4).Platonic relationship at onetime turning into non-platonic(very few manage to be platonic)
5).Constant contacts in workplace, social gatherings and due to the attention and understanding one shows on you (either intentionally or not)
The affair can be tackled, if both can sit together and see the reasons for it to happen, and decide to forget about it with a combined concerted effort to do so.

Raghu Natrajan

Selasa, 28 Oktober 2008

WOMEN IN RED

If a woman wants to drive the men wild, she might want to dress in red.

Men rated a woman shown in photographs as more sexually attractive if she was wearing red clothing or if she was shown in an image framed by a red border rather than some other colour, US researchers said on Tuesday.

The study led by psychology professor Andrew Elliot of the University of Rochester in Rochester, New York, seemed to confirm red as the colour of romance -- as so many Valentine's Day card makers and lipstick sellers have believed for years.

Although this 'red alert' may be a product of human society associating red with love for eons, it also may arise from more primitive biological roots, Elliot said.

Noting the genetic similarity of humans to higher primates, he said scientists have shown that certain male primates are especially attracted to females of their species displaying red. For example, female baboons and chimpanzees show red colouring when nearing ovulation, sending a sexual signal that the males apparently find irresistible.

"It could be this very deep, biologically based automatic tendency to respond to red as an attraction cue given our evolutionary heritage," Elliot, whose findings appear in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, said in a telephone interview.


The study involved more than 100 men, mostly college undergraduates, who were shown pictures of women and asked to rate how pretty they were, how much the men would like to kiss them and how much the men would like to have sex with them.

Men were shown a woman, with some of the pictures bordered in red and some bordered in white, gray or green. Even though it was the same picture of the same woman, when she was framed in red the men rated her as more attractive than when she was bordered by another colour.

Men were then shown photographs of a woman that were identical except that the researchers digitally made her shirt red in some versions or blue in others. And once again, the men strongly favoured the woman in red.

The men also were asked, "Imagine that you are going on a date with this person and have $100 in your wallet. How much money would you be willing to spend on your date?" When she was clad in red, the men said they would spend more money on her.

The researchers noted that the colour red did not alter how men rated the women in the photographs in terms of likability, intelligence or kindness -- only attractiveness.

The researchers then had a group of young women rate whether the pictured woman was pretty. Red had no impact on whether women rated other women as pretty, they found.

Gay men and colour blind men were excluded from the study.

Raghu Natrajan